40? How’d that happen?

There comes a time when a birthday comes and you either can be upset you havent done certain things you hoped to or you can embrace who you have become.

So, when did I turn 40?? Yesterday. I have decided that embracing the amazing life I have is what I need to focus on and not the “well i didn’t do this or that.” I still didn’t get my surprise birthday party requiring someone to plan and execute it… Maybe by the next decade…

I’d gladly accept orders for Thirty-one on my page on my Fall launch party AKA my birthday rewards. (Fall Launch Party ). I just am looking forward to this DS being my best one I have joined & continue to grow here.

Yes, 40 can be scary but here’s my goals:

1. Smile more with my children & their shenanigans. 🤪

2. Spend more time with my children as time is fleeting.🕰

3. Work better on my relationship with my husband so that my other relationships can grow.👫

4. Work my faith more, not just attending church but living a life God wants me to be living.🙏 ⛪📚

5. Stop caring so much for others approval and more about my family needs, wants and happiness to take priority 👫👱‍♂️👱‍♀️👱‍♂️👱‍♀️👱‍♀️👱‍♀️

6. Build my business. I love it, Im happy with my commissions no matter how small or large they are!📤💲📥

7. Most importantly, devote time & energy to being healthier so that I will be here for my children longer. 🚶‍♀️

So for the next year, I am focusing on these… I know I will stumble, my depression will kick its ugly head up at some time, my kids are gonna make me wish I didn’t have to work and then again wonder why they get dumb over the summer, and more. Life is about accepting and moving forward, not sitting and waiting without trying first.

I know I have done right…

Last night I got a surprise. My amazing 16 year old paid for my hubs and I to go out to dinner at one of the local higher class establishments.

He told the hubs that I was stressed out and we needed to get out. My 16 year old was cognizant of my feelings. He took care of planning it so I had no clue.

We had an hour out… no kids, no phones, no interruptions. We got to see our boy working and enjoying it. He even picked out dessert and plated it himself for us.

I felt relief as this last week mentally was hell for me. I realize he does listen and care.

Love you Leo!!

God Sightings

This week is almost done. I have seen some amazing things this week.

From Leo waking up after a might at the drive-in (ie didnt end until 215 am) to make True & friends pancakes for her birthday gift, to seeing She-ra loving Vacation Bible School and talking about it. Moose learning D&D figurine painting, Booger wanting to be 3 just so she can participate in VBS, to Goober sitting and playing in the bath instead of screaming.

Other amazing things have included my children being shown compassion and understanding not only by adults but other children. Hearing praise of friends & co-workers. Hearing a co-worker helped to stop a real fire.

But it’s the stopping to pick up a friend’s dog that got out again, paying off that friend who was kind enough to take care of your children but honest enough to say “Sorry, I’m overwhelmed and can’t keep them.” From people bending backward to ensure my daughter doesn’t miss a camp with the church group because we didn’t know she truly wanted to go until it was upon us. Random blessings in the mail. Feeling productive enough to actually devote time to something you didn’t think you wanted to do.

Ya know… that random stranger who smiles, the person who grabs the door for you, the person who takes your cart back into the store so you don’t have to, and even those you do those things for… those are God sightings.

Be aware of that little voice that gnaws at you to do something positive for others, they may send you a small glimpse of something you may have missed.

Life is crazy and Im still stumbling…

The last few weeks have been crazy!! Between birthday & Fathers Day events to doctor’s appointments that include vaccines & specialist appointments to schedule, to the end of school… Im exhausted!! But another month until I can safely say we should be done with that.

I’m tired with work, but it’s a necessary evil… for now. The hubs and I finally got in & talked with a banker about getting a home equity loan… just looking over the pros and cons & hopefully will help us stop living paycheck to paycheck.

In other news, we have taken in a bunny for a few weeks so I have been blogging with her family too. It’s definitely been fun this week. Boog & She-Ra cut each others hair today… luckily it’s not too bad… unlike when True & Moose shaved each others heads. Goob has been under the weather since Thursday, I stayed home yesterday and well… lack of sleep.

I’m kinda depressed that I have kiddos that are sick and I can’t snap my fingers to be home always with them or make them better… I guess that’s called Mommy Guilt.

Got one kiddo into a painting class for the summer – Moose is learning to paint his D&D figurines. True wants to do soccer this upcoming school year as well as to see if the church she went to quilting class last summer is hosting them again. She-Ra & Boog may start back to their Nonna’s this summer… we shall see.

For me, I have a lot of desires for this summer… like getting this blog going more, my Thirty-One business (www.mythirtyone.com/1940404) to take off and our bills to decrease amazingly.

Yup, me trying

Sleep deprived??

Man, this week has flown by!! Moose turned 11, so we now have 2 (yes 2) 11 year olds in the house. So it’s been a little crazy. We had 5 kiddos in the dentist this week, only 1 having to go back but not for cavities but to have their tooth extracted… yup She-Ra has to have her front tooth pulled because it’s dead and now has an infection, luckily it’s a baby tooth. Plus, the dentist wants a skin tag biopsied so that the poor girl has at the corner of her mouth.

5 hours on Wednesday driving paper routes… my kiddos plus 2 clients routes… please never again!! I felt like it was a constant dream with my client, over and over again grabbing his crotch saying “I want you in my mouth”… the life of working with people with disabilities.

On to life of sitting in my office wishing wasn’t at work… life… day dreaming of the day when I can confidently be unemployed… with children, that will never happen.

Spent an hour with 2 children at a counseling and hopefully it helped… so far it hasn’t…

Forgot that Goob had her 6 month check up… included vaccines. So no rest for this momma as she’d fall asleep then wake up screaming… poor babes.

Have Moose’s party with 6 boys over night… please remind me next year that’s not happening!?! Boys hurting each other’s feelings, not going to bed until 130 and up at 7… I am old and cannot do this up and down all night yelling at children, because the FIRST time telling them to be quiet SHOULD have been enough.

Now onto the weekend… I get to walk for 2 hours for work today and then get the rest of the weekend off!!

HERE’S TO ALL THE OTHER SLEEP DEPRIVED PARENTS OUT THERE… YOU ROCK, YOU GOT THIS!!

Favorite foods???

This is so She-Ra…

*Green beans – no way, no how, they better stay off my plate

*Tacos – No protein for me, yuck to meat and yuck to beans… my taco is just a shell with cheese just kidding it’s cheese and sour cream no shell.

*Fried Chicken – well if its her decision for dinner

*Mac and Cheese – Winner winner every meal… the rest of us are “blah”

*Corndogs – Yes please but take the breading off and take it off the stick, uhm, yeah I could have made you a hot dog only…

*Marshmallow cereal – Just kidding, its just the marshmallows and the cereal can disappear in the milk and sit there all day then she might try it again.

Plus all drinks must be in a lidded cup, not because she is not capable of a regular cup but because she wants to be like the Boog…

Ladies day…

Well the boys are out playing D & D which means for us ladies: fake nails on the girls, nail polished watermelons, edible cookie dough, and coffee… along with lots of chatting!!

Should totally be doing more like the laundry… but even us ladies need a day to get our fun on… So now I’m binging “The unbreakable Kimmy Schmit” on Netflix… but it’s definitely not getting my puzzle done or laundry folded.

Yesterday I was able to hang out with one of my bestie’s while we were out rock hunting… didn’t score the prized rock that we were looking for but we found plenty more of amazing art. We don’t get to hang out often enough. Makes me sad some times.

My other bestie, Jess, lives in NY which is completely on the opposite side of the country from me… Miss being able to get together and hang out but we are just able to be like nothing has changed.

My new girlfriends and I have time to chat.

what about you? What are things you like to do???

Cast Off…

Crazy busy here… today we had a very productive day….

This morning I was blessed to sleep in and get up to take 2 kids to school, 2 kids to child care, and 1 kid to get his cast off.

Moose and I had an uneventful drive and we both were able to have our first cast removal EVER!!  Nearly 40 and I have never been cast or been around cast removal.  It’s definitely pretty cool to see them pop the cast open. And then cut it off.  However, I was not prepared for the sloughing of the old skin from under it… no wonder why it’s itchy!!!

Anyhow, drove home and washed his arm off then took him to school.  I went to work and well, I feel like I was so not productive there.  I went about trying to get caught up from this crazy week but it was more like staying even more crazy.  I was late to my first client, late to my second (by the way I had less than 5 minutes to drive between the 2) and then on time for my third.  Of course, I had to leave an hour early from there due to the need of child care being closed for the afternoon.

Now, I’m home.  I have my 4 girls home and my Moose. Now to get to the dinner but at least Moose can help with the dishes once again more productively and can shower completely.  It’s time for chicken and rice then a walk.

Yes, that should do it for the day!!

Direct Sales… Connections…

I have to say I love the group of ladies in my Direct Sale company, specifically my upline. Had a wonderful night with my fellow consultants and leaders. I love the company but just wish I could grow my business more.

Mind you we are a bag, tote, storage, jewelry, home decor not only a lady target with clothes or something. Our newly launched lines are awesome and now I get a new to promote another line starting June 1.

So, why when I promote things in my Facebook group that I am excited about will no one join in the conversations? Why even the fun posts get read but no response?

It’s disheartening to know your friends and family, though they verbally state they support you, they stop short… no referrals, no hosting, no asking about your business. It sucks to have a full time job, 6 children and trying to become successful with your DS business that you don’t feel guilty for cutting hours at your full-time gig so you can spend time with your growing children.

Reality is, I cannot sit here in a business I love with stagnation. I need active hosts and customers, but I hate being pushy about it.

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www.mythirtyone.com/1940404